STOP AND THINK: Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. (Benjamin Franklin, statesman, inventor, and author of practical maxims)
Most people try to say the right things at the right time, hoping to be helpful and engaged. As Franklin says, however, the greater problem is not saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Some people with a glib tongue, attempting to be humorous, sometimes say things that hurt. It’s hard work to guard one’s tongue, but it can save a lot of embarrassment.
Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless (James 1:26)