Control violates the human will and renders freedom an illusion. (Roy Angle, cross-cultural worker)

Angle continues,The illusion of control is starkly contrasted with the reality of influence. Influence always gives options.” We all know a few people who are controllers. They really like to be in control, sometimes rather subtly. Angle seems to imply that being an influencer is a better way, because you may suggest, but you give others an option to choose.

[Those who fear God] . . . share freely and give generously to those in need. Their good deeds will be remembered forever. They will have influence and honor. (Psalm 112:9)