We don’t see things the way they are, but the way we are. (Anaïs Nin, 20th-century French-Cuban American writer)
It’s often a question of viewpoint or perspective. We evaluate what we see and make our judgments based on our personal experience and bias. Others may see the same word or activity and make an entirely different judgment. Why is that? We must all learn the important lesson of impartiality and making sound judgments on more than mere appearances.
Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment. (Proverbs 4:7)