The real trouble about the duty of forgiveness is that you do it with all your might on Monday and then find on Wednesday that it hasn’t stayed put and all has to be done over again. (C. S. Lewis, late British scholar)
We can all relate to Lewis’ observation. Sometimes we say, “I can forgive, but I can’t forget.” The better understanding of “forgetting” is not that you can erase the hurt from your memory bank, but rather that it no longer holds you in its grip. Forgiving someone is a blessing to them, of course, but it is an even greater blessing to be free from carrying the burden of unforgiveness.
Love prospers when a fault is forgiven but dwelling on it separates close friends. (Proverbs 17:9)