Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. (C. H. Spurgeon)
Tombstones may tell interesting stories by the etchings in the stone. Flowers can be placed on the grave as a memory of the love for the lost one. But, as Spurgeon suggests, the most valuable memories are from the loving life of one whose grave is being marked. We should live in such a way that our care of others will be a life-long memory for those we leave behind.
We have happy memories of the godly, but the name of a wicked person rots away. (Proverbs 10:7)