Whom you would change, you must first love, and they must know you love them. (Martin Luther King, Jr.)

How can we love someone who we think needs to change somehow? We must first understand that true love is to act toward another person in his or her best interest; it’s not just some romantic feeling. If we love that way, we might indeed be able to influence them toward change.

Let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. (1 John 3:18)