Daily Stop & Thinks

Proper Conversation

It’s best to talk to people not about people. (Rob Harrison, American pastor)

With the almost universal use of smartphones and the Internet, face-to-face conversation has become nearly nonexistent—or, at least, less common. But the same rules of civility should apply to online conversations as to personal verbal exchanges.  Too often, gossip and slander creep into our impersonal cyberspace talk. Keep it proper on and off line.

Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone. (Colossians 4:6)

Choosing Your Response

The overwhelming majority of your life is shaped by how you choose . . .to respond to circumstances beyond your control. (Paraphrase of Tim Knight, filmmaker)

Knight points out that only a very small part of your life is affected by such circumstances. Most of life, he says, is not so much a question of what happens to you but how you choose to respond to life’s happenings. If that’s true, it places a great deal of significance on our ability to make good choices. That’s a matter experience, learning, and character development.

People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed. (Proverbs 10:9)

True Friends

Friends are the Bacon Bits in the Salad Bowl of Life. (Pizza Shop Sign)

A lot of people agree that nearly everything tastes better with a little bacon in it. You might not want a bacon salad, but put a few bits in a spinach salad, and it is even tastier. Friends can be like that. You want them around because they add flavor to your life. And when you need that little extra to help you over a tough time, a touch of their friendship can restore your joy.

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family (Proverbs 18:24)

Sympathy

Anybody can sympathize with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathize with a friend’s success. (Oscar Wilde, 19^th century Irish poet and playwright)

Think about it! Most of us will genuinely sorrow with a friend who is suffering. That’s what friends do. We want to encourage and help them in times of trouble or grief. But Wilde raises an interesting question. Are we as helpful and encouraging when a friend enjoys success, especially in areas where we may not have done so well?

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. (Romans 12:15)

A Simple Life

Finding a way to live the simple life is one of life’s supreme complications. (T. S. Eliot, one of the 20^th century’s major poets)

You may have neighbors whose religious convictions call for living a simple life. It may be difficult, but they do without telephones, automobiles, and electricity. What about the rest of us? We don’t have to give up modern conveniences necessarily, but learning to do with less simplifies daily life. Living more simply would undoubtedly do us good.

I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is . . . with plenty or little. (Philippians 4:11-12)

Bitterness

Bitterness is an acid that destroys its own container. (Adrian Rogers, radio preacher)

It frightening to know that the gastric acids in our stomachs can eat through wood and small pieces of metal. It’s comforting to know, however, that those acids destroy bacteria and viruses that could do our bodies harm. Also, our stomachs have a protective lining that keeps the acid from burning through and harming us. If bitterness is like an acid, think of what harm it can do.

Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. (Hebrews 12:15)

Do Good

Go into the world and do well. But more importantly, go into the world and do good. (Minor Myers, professor)

You might well expect to hear a commencement speaker encourage the graduates to “Go into the world and do well.” With all their new knowledge and wisdom, they can expect to succeed in their chosen field of endeavor. The speaker may also challenge the students to use the rest of Myers’ quote, “Go into the world and do good.” Work unselfishly for the good of others.

And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need. (Hebrews 13:16). Remind the believers . . . They should be obedient, always ready to do what is good (Titus 3:1).

Hard Work

I don’t like to write, but I like having written. (Frank Norris, 19^th century journalist)

Maybe it’s not writing you dislike; maybe it’s the daily grind of your job. You don’t like the work (mental or physical) and you don’t enjoy the long hours; but you do like the results—whether it’s an artistic creation or a useful product. Whatever your gifting or assignment, do your very best at it; hard work pays off both for you and for others.

Use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. (Ephesians 4:28)

Planning

Envisioning our ideal next stage of life is an essential part of healthy aging. And the best way to actually achieve that ideal is to plan for it. (Maridel Reyes, writer and editor)

It often seems like bad things just happen; we don’t have to plan for them. But good things don’t simply happen; we have to plan for them. And Reyes gives more good advice: “Our lives consist of equally important parts—past, present, and future—and we can reap tremendous rewards from investing our thoughts and actions into all three. “

Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed. . . . Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity. (Proverbs 16:3; 21:5)

Advancement

If I have to choose, I will  . . . take the less dynamic, indeed even the lazy person, who knows what’s right, than the zealot in the cause of error. (Antonin Scalia, late U.S. Supreme Court justice)

Scalia continues: “He may move slower, but he’s headed in the right direction.” On another occasion, he said, “Movement is not necessarily progress.” Two important ideas: 1) The issue is not speed but direction. Choose the guy who is on the path you know to be the right one. 2) Make sure that the movement you see is advancing the project, not taking it backwards.

Throw yourself into your tasks so that everyone will see your progress. (1 Timothy 4:15)

What’s Missing?

We have too much to live with and too little to live for. (Os Guinness, English author and social critic.)

On your next exercise walk, take a look in the open garages of your neighbors. What’s missing? In some of them, you’ll see lots of “stuff” but no automobile. You might wonder what their attics, storerooms, and closets look like. Now, there’s nothing wrong with having things, but what do the recreational and sports “toys” and all the other stuff suggest about their life goals?

Don’t store up treasures here on earth . . .  Store your treasures in heaven, where moths and rust cannot destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal. (Matthew 6:19-20)

Success

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure–It is:  to please everybody. (Herbert Bayard Swope, journalist)

Everyone wants to be successful. Libraries are full of books intended to help readers achieve their goals. Swope acknowledges that it’s really difficult to apply those “10 Steps to Success” in every situation, and he offers one very significant key to failure. It doesn’t take long to discover you can’t please everyone, so don’t try to. That may be your first step to success.

I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant. (Galatians 1:10)