Daily Stop & Thinks

STOP AND THINK – Love one another and you will be happy. It is as simple and as difficult as that (Michael Leunig, Australian cultural commentator)

Once again we are reminded that to experience real happiness we must be focused outside ourselves. But, as Leunig suggests, it isn’t always easy to think of others first. Some people are not very loveable, so it can be difficult to act toward them in caring ways. But that’s what love is all about. So, treat others well, and you can be happy.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. (Ephesians 4:2)

STOP AND THINK – We don’t laugh because we are happy—we’re happy because we laugh. (William James, 19^th & 20^th century American philosopher)

Laughter may very well be an accurate indication of someone’s state of mind. But James is turning common wisdom around. Surely, when we hear someone laughing, we can rightly assume that that person is happy. But, of course, that is not always true. It is true, however, that laughter does change our expression and, perhaps, our attitude. Laugh and be happy!

He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy. (Job 8:21)

STOP AND THINK – Genuine happiness consists in those spiritual qualities of love, compassion, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness. (The Dalai Lama)

He went on to say, “For it is these which provide both for our happiness and others’ happiness.” The qualities he referred to are all directed outward. They can be shown only in relationship to others. It reminds us that we can’t really be happy if we are focused only on ourselves. We must be positively involved with others. They will be happy, and so will we!

Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (Colossians 3:12)

STOP AND THINK – Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them. (Leo Tolstoy, 19^th & 20^th century Russian writer and philosopher)

So many people are looking outside themselves to find happiness. They try entertainment, look to other people or the accumulation of things—and most often are disappointed. Tolstoy doesn’t advise such people to look into themselves (which might be good advice), but that they should take another look at things. Our perspective certainly affects our view of things.

Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. (Proverbs 4:25-26)

STOP AND THINK – Happy is he who learns from the misfortunes of others. (Aesops Fables)

Life’s adversities often cause depression and the temptation to give up. But if we can learn from others’ problems how to avoid those awful results, we can learn even more from our own misfortunes. They can be great opportunities for learning—learning how to handle stress, how to do better, how to avoid repeated disasters. Don’t give up, learn and grow.

It was good for me to be afflicted so that I might learn your decrees. (Psalm 119:71)

STOP AND THINK – There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself. (Henry David Thoreau, 19^th century American poet and philosopher)

Thoreau seems to be saying that we are responsible for our own value system and our own happiness. Many people seem to be looking everywhere else for something to keep them happy. Perhaps it’s in the entertainment world, or the work place, or the sports arena that we’re seeking lasting enjoyment. It’s time to take responsibility to find lasting joy ourselves.

To the person who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness. (Ecclesiastes 2:26)

STOP AND THINK – To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness. (Bertrand Russell, 20^th century British philosopher)

Doing without is not something we strive for. Most of us have an abundance of things, and what we don’t have, we want, so we work hard to get more stuff. What Russell had in mind might be hard to understand, but being without worthwhile things is a great motivation to work hard to fulfill our dreams. Want to be happy? Work hard.

The Apostle Paul, “We gave you this rule: ‘The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.’” (Acts 20:35)

STOP AND THINK – Seek to do good, and you will find that happiness will run after you. (James Freeman Clarke, 19^th century American theologian and author)

As mentioned in previous daily thoughts, happiness is not something to be sought so much as the result of making right choices, developing positive attitudes, and engaging in worthy activity. If we do all the good we can in all the relationships we have, we  will not only help others and achieve worthy accomplishments, but we will discover that we are happy.

I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. (Ecclesiastes 3:12)

STOP AND THINK – All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. (Dennis Prager, syndicated columnist and radio talk show host)

Gratitude and happiness are very closely linked. If you have an attitude of gratitude, you very likely will be a happy person. As Prager says, “We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to complain, but it’s truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.” So, let’s stop complaining, let’s start thanking, and let’s be happy.

Admonish one another with all wisdom through . . . singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. (Colossians 3:16)

STOP AND THINK – Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy. (Wayne Dyer, American motivational speaker and author)

How often have we blamed someone else for our unhappiness? He said something that hurt me, or she treated me unfairly. Whether it’s a co-worker, someone in line at the grocery store, or even a friend—can they really be the cause for our sour state of mind? We need to recognize that, ultimately, we alone are responsible for our attitudes and emotions.

You were taught . . . to be made new in the attitude of your minds. (Ephesians 4:22-23)

STOP AND THINK – We act as though comfort and luxury were the chief requirements of life, when all that we need to make us happy is something to be enthusiastic about. (Charles Kingsley, 19^th century Anglican priest and professor)

Has Kingsley rightly judged his fellow men? Is it true that people value comfort and luxury too highly and seem to be pursuing them as life’s most important goals? Whether or not his judgment is correct, what about the solution he offers? Is enthusiasm enough? Well, it is certain that we need to find something to seek after that is not just temporal and fleeting.

I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me. (Philippians 3:14)

STOP AND THINK – Where fear is, happiness is not. (Seneca, 1^st century Roman Stoic philosopher)

Sometimes obvious ideas simply stated convey profound truths. Fear and happiness certainly are incompatible, aren’t they? Can you imagine being scared and joyful at the same time? When we’re afraid, what can we do to alleviate the fear and restore happiness? We should look beyond ourselves to get rid of the fear and find joy.

 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear.  . . . The one who fears is not made perfect in love. (1 John 4:18)